When did this game become so violently toxic?

I came back after some time to aoe2 de, and I just don't want to play the game because how people are acting. In a community lobby, if you don't select a civ and press ready in 2 seconds you get kicked, if you do something badly ingame you get flamed to the ground, if you dare to kill an enemy, they start yelling at how broken ur civ and your mother is. People leave the game the second they start loosing. Haven't seen a single glhf or gg at all. My past 8 games were like this, it was an absolutely miserable experience.