Multiplayer anxiety

I play a lot of multiplayer games. But for some reason aoe has been the only game Im reluctant to play ranked on. The only other game that I was a bit anxious about was csgo but after playing casual in that game for a while and just having fun and getting used to it i felt I was confident enough to play ranked cuz I won't be as much of a burden to my team.

But I've been playing aoe most of it's lifetime on and off with DE kinda rekindling my interest in it. I won't say I'm good but i got the basics down but for whatever reason I just can't force myself to play ranked. I only have two games on ranked. I don't think I'm alone when it comes to this so can someone tell us how they overcame it ?