How viable is defensive play in pvp?

I dont play this game often at all. I enjoy the campaign and skirmish, but it gets boring since the AI is clearly not the greatest.

I would like to try pvp but my experience so far is that it is just super aggressive with lots of villager raiding and early attacks. Which I'm sure I would learn to play around, but I would have to drastically change my approach which I'm not sure I want to do.

I like just turtling and rushing to mythic and then churning out a massive endless army to slowly suffocate enemies. This works pretty well against AI and its fun since I can see all the big cool myth units and god powers, but is this ever viable in pvp? Or is aggression the exclusive meta?

I'm probably just generally too slow. Like I dont really have any macros set up and am nor familiar with keyboard hotkeys. Maybe ill just try it out once (if) they remaster it.

Tldr: Is there a pvp meta? If so, is it aggressive or defensive, or does it vary hugely depending on match up?