Useful Heuristics/Tips for brand new players?

Hey guys, I'm a former diamond-level SC2 player looking to get back into RTS games, and wanting to learn AOE2 specifically. I've been trying to watch as much content and play as many games as I can in the last couple of days as I begin to pick this game up. I've been trying to wrap my head around all the unit types, the civ differences, and the map generation, and experimenting with various aspects of the game.

I'm finding that I'm having a decent amount of trouble balancing and rebalancing my economy throughout the ages. While SC2's combat is pretty complex, and build order requirements/tolerances are often very tight, the economy in SC2 is much simpler - you put 3 guys on every gas geyser and fill minerals with the rest of your workers at every single base. Each base has a visible saturation point.

In AOE2 in contrast, each age seems to have different resource requirements. In Dark/Feudal, there isn't that much demand for wood and you focus mostly on food. I'm still trying to master the basic build order, pulling boars, transitioning, builds for Feudal Rush/Fast Castle/Imperial Boom, etc. Getting housed hasn't been too much of a problem thankfully!

In Feudal there's more demand for wood because of your early farms and the beginnings of demand for gold. Castle and Feudal seem to be all about gold and food primarily, with wood being primarily used for the 'trash' units and farms. In SC there's less concern for balancing your economy since there's only two resources, how do you guys manage rebalancing your economy during each age? As an example I’ve been trying to make sure I have at least as many villagers on wood as I do on food during feudal age and on. Not sure if this is necessary as I haven’t done the calcs but it seems fine so far.

Also do you typically get lots of major upgrades the minute you age up? It seems like a sensible move but I’m not sure of the relative usefulness of each upgrade at each stage yet.

Also I sometimes hesitate with whether I should attack-move or patrol my army into an opposing army, and how effective those things are. I've watched a lot of content on YouTube but also still trying to wrap my ahead around alleged issues with DE that may be altering my experience.

All that said I'm just very excited to be facing a new game with a seemingly steep learning curve. Do you have any tips for a newer players or heuristics for balancing economy or anything else?