AOE2 has become virtually unplayable for me

DE came out a year and a half ago and for 16 months it was amazing and worked flawlessly, every single time. But in the last two months it's become almost unplayable.

First, half of my games crash in the lobby. They only crash once other players join, so I wait five minutes for a game and there's a 50% chance it will crash. Incredibly frustrating.

Second, the game has become plagued by lag. I played hundreds of games in the last year, no lag. But in the last couple weeks, it's been choppy and laggy in many of the games I do get to play.

Third, desyncs and crashes. I just came here to rant because I had a BF game, we all spent 30 minutes building our big boom imp setups, and then just when the enemy was breaking through my wall and I was ready to meet him, it crashed. Man I wanted to smash something. Evening ruined.

All of these issues are recent. I don't know what happened to the game but it has me considering just re-installing HD where I could usually get a game pretty quick and desyncs happened sometimes but not as frequently as they're happening in DE lately.