Unplayable game state HELP!?

Okay so this is a bit of a doozy.

tldr: game state deteriorates over the course of the game from: max fps, no freezes to some micro stutters and freezes, to reduced fps (as low as 7 fps!) and 4 second freezes every other second.

Initially I was using an MSI GS65 Stealth Thin laptop (gtx 1070, 16gb ram, 8gb vram) and I was playing AoE2DE with no issues UNLESS I had "record game" ticked. At the beginning this wasn't an issue because I wasn't playing online so I could disable "record game". When I got to ranked it happened every game due to "record game" always being on and the game became unplayable. I had other issues with my laptop so I assumed an upgrade was in order.

I upgrade to an HP Omen 30L (RTX 3080, 32gb ram, 10gb vram) and I have the exact same issue. Starting fps locked at 144 to match monitor refresh rate. After a few min micro stutters, then more aggressive freezes then game becomes unplayable. Sometimes it even crashes. I can replicate the issue every time between ranked and singleplayer offline with record game ticked. If record game is unticked then no issues. Wtf is this?

linked is a video of it happening late game.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/13ndjvtAXJcYrdmLhrQ9uQbOuZ5RDyVhs/view

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It just sucks because I put a lot of effort learning this game and I can't play it ranked...